‘It could be worse you could be having a third kid like Tom’ laughed my best mate at a recent stag do!
When I first met high command over ten years ago one of the things we shared in common was a longing to have a family and a big one at that!
I don’t mean enough kids to fill a minibus but that nice round number of 3 kids.
We are blessed with two beautiful healthy daughters, No1 and No2, who are almost 4 and 2 respectively with our third daughter due to join us in early March 2014.
Making the decision to have a third child has not been an easy one but not in the way I thought it would.
High Command and I both wanted a third child. It just didn’t feel right with only two kids.
In some way after No2 joined us it felt that there was still a person missing from the team. I know High Command secretly wanted a Boy but for me the motivation was always just to have a bigg(ish) family.
But for the year after No2 was born we both tried very hard to convince ourselves that it would be a bad idea.
‘It will be too expensive’
‘We’ll need a bigger car’
‘What about holidays?’
‘We wont be able to cope’
‘We wont have enough space’
‘We’ll go mad’
But a year after wrangling with our conscience it basically boiled down to one thing:
‘It just felt right!’
It was that simple.
We both wanted a third child.
There are lots of families that have 3 kids and survive so why could’nt we?
So after making the decision to plough ahead I was prepared to take my role as chief sperm donor very seriously. To role up my sleeves and get stuck in, as lets be honest there is nothing better in my view than baby making whoopy!
Anyway one week in you can imagine my mixed feelings when High Command happily informed me that she was pregnant. I was secretly deflated as the news meant I would have to pencil in some bedroom action for Summer ’14 at the earliest. But on the other hand I was made up that the expansion of the family was on track.
‘You must be mad!!!’ has been the stock response from our friends.
Other comments have included:
‘You have two hands and two knees for a reason. You must be bonkers!’
‘Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha’
‘Oh dear that’s going to be expensive’
‘How crazy are YOU!
‘I think your stupid’ (this was my favourite from my Brother in Law)
At present we are the only family from our various friendship groups to forge ahead with having three children. When we speak to people they are of the opinion that its a bad idea but good luck anyway!
So what has prompted me to write this well it dawned on me this morning as I was on another train journey for work that in early March next year family life is going to take another significant turn.
Are we, and more importantly, am I ready for it?
Well the honest answer is No!
To say I am more laid back after going through the process twice previously would be an understatement. Certainly before No1 was born I had read every book available and even drawn diagrams on how to fit the Tens Machine in case I crumbled under pressure!
So I need to get my bottom in gear and get prepared for D-day. I think my forthcoming posts are going to revolve around getting ready for the birth and my thoughts on how to manage three kids.
So any advice on how to cope with three young kids would be gratefully appreciated